Write out your fears.

I used to believe that when I’m angry or tense, I should “calm down” and breathe the tension away. Cause hey I don’t like the feeling, therefore, I must change it! This was then when I didn’t yet understand that we can’t really run away from our feelings and that our personal power and energy is fuelled by allowing the experience.

Nowadays, I advocate feeling your feelings, even the unpleasant ones fully to let them move Through your body. Live the experience.
I work with men and women who have benefited tremendously from allowing themselves to FEEL fully rather than trying to change what they were feeling.

I learned about the idea that feelings are just thoughts that moved into the body. So, if you let go of the thoughts because they are just thoughts the feelings move, too.
That’s all well and good. Do what works for you. In my world, that just heightened the level of shame at my emotional intensity.

The resistance of feeling leads us to such strange compensatory behaviours with a high tendency to destroy more. Addictions come in as our ability and willingness to connect with ourselves deeply goes down.

We need to feel to be healthy.

Write out your fears. Ask for them to be removed. Be witnessed. Seek community. Do not hide in shame. Your mental wellness depends on it.

So, do you dare to feel and share yourself?