Don't follow your dream!

I hear people advising us to follow our dreams. But the reality of this means stumbling in the darkness. Because when we dream, we are asleep. And it's often dark. 🌙 Don't get up and follow the dream, let the dream mature.
It will either grow into a fantasy or a vision.
What's what?

My fantasy looks like this:
I am always happy and my kids always listen. We live in a big self-cleaning house in nature close to the cities of our choice which change according to our moods and the airport. It's always quiet and the birds are singing. It's a soundproof house in a community of people we absolutely adore. There is no conflict. I am in an intimate relationship with my soul mate who is endlessly beautiful, successful and always supportive. He does what I desire most without me having to tell him! Sex is always exciting.
I never age but only become more beautiful and I don't have to do anything for it!

A vision is more grounded:
I choose to parent calmly and enjoy myself with my wonderful family. We create our adventures with grace and celebrate the growth on the way.
We delight in the fruit of our labours, we enjoy our work and time together. We play a lot. 🤩

Fantasies are great - but we don't want to confuse them with reality.

Reality is more:
I parent calmly until too many buttons have been pushed and I lost the sense of my boundaries. That's when I get angry and 'off centre'. I give myself support to find this centre again, recover, reset and go again. I choose to see my life as growth and sometimes I think it all sucks, other times my heart bursts with gratitude. I might share my life with a partner again but my happiness does not depend on it. I choose to be happy no matter what.